Mom couldn’t stop screaming when she realized what her daughter gave birth to. A stable, mentally sound mother would not impose her lifestyle preferences and would accept her daughter for who she is. A strong, mentally sound mother would celebrate her daughter daughter and the choices that she makes. Your mother sounds like she has some issues with selfesteem and insecurity.
She may have a mental illness, such as borderline personality disorder or narcissistic personality disorder. However, there’s not enough information here to discern. It’s healthy to have appropriate boundaries established, and your mother may cross those more than one should. She may actively try to disempower you through gaslighting techniques when she doesn’t approve or is threatened by your choices.
Meanwhile, it’s important for you to recognize when she is gaslighting and learn how to protect yourself so you don’t become mentally unstable. Teen pregnancy generally refers to a pregnant girl between the ages of 13 and 19. The CDC reports the average age for a woman to have her first menstrual cycle is twelve and a half years, so pregnancy is certainly possible if puberty occurs prior to age 13. Some teenagers, equipped with the support and love of their families and communities, manage to move through this often traumatic experience, making healthy decisions for everyone involved.
But the odds are stacked against teen parents and their offspring because of the health risks to mothers and babies, as well as the substantial social and economic costs. The CDC lists teenage pregnancy prevention as one of the agency’s top seven priorities a winnable battle in public health and of paramount importance to health and quality of life for our youth. Some mothers will as you found out, not all mothers do.
The thing that takes a long time to understand about our parents is that they are people flawed, damaged, and unhappy about something when they become parents. Hopefully, they have some understanding of children, but lots of people have no idea what children need in order to flourish. It doesn’t make them bad, but it does set up a lot of potential unhappiness.
As you’ve learned, you are your own person as an adult. If you pay your own bills and are independent, you have the right to eat what you wish and do what you want in your spare time. But you knew that already. The trick is to forgive your mother for her failings and then create the mother you need for yourself. Only you know what you really need.
When a mother took her teenage daughter to the doctor to get to the bottom of her troubling symptoms, she never expected he’d say the girl was pregnant. In fact, she refused to believe it. So the doctor fired back with a brilliant reply that left the soon to be grandmother screaming completely normal to want to believe the best when it comes to our children.
Unfortunately, it’s also completely normal for them to let us down, just like we did to our own parents when we were kids, bad behavior is part of growing up. But some news is much harder than other news to accept. As we all learn, we should know from our own childhood experiences, children aren’t always as open and honest with their parents as we would like for them to be.
Even though many of us have told our kids, you can come to me with anything. The fact of the matter is that our precious Angels will keep secrets from us at some point. As one mother found out, we hope that our kids will never smoke, drink, or do drugs, or have unprotected sex behind our back. But sadly, the likelihood is that these things might happen.
Even if we think we’ve taken all the precautions necessary to keep our little ones out of trouble as they enter their teen years. At some point before they become adults, we will very likely have to face the fact that our child isn’t the little angel they pretended to be around us. That’s exactly what happened in one story featuring a naive mother who found out that her daughter was about to make her a grandma when the girl’s mother was in total denial.
Questioning the doctor’s assessment, he set her straight with a brilliant response that could have not been more perfect. The woman who we will call Mrs. Jones took her 16 year old daughter to the doctor when the girl began to have unusual and troublesome symptoms that were interfering with her daily activity.
When the doctor asked, what’s the problem? Mrs. Jones was quick to explain, It’s my daughter Mandy. She keeps getting these cravings, she’s putting on weight, and she’s sick. Most mornings the doctor gave Mandy a thorough examination, including one important test, which rendered the results he had anticipated all along. So he turned to Mrs. Jones and said, Well, I don’t know how to tell you this, but your Mandy is pregnant.
To Mrs. Jones shock, he added, about four months would be my guess. Immediately, Mrs. Jones head started to spin. How could this be? She was so careful with Mandy. The doctor had to be wrong. So Mrs. Jones wasted no time letting him know he made a big mistake. Pregnant, she can’t be. She’s never even been left alone with a man. Have you, Mandy?
Mrs. Jones barked at the doctor and her daughter. Of course, Mandy quickly agreed with her mother’s assessment. No, Mother, I’ve never even kissed a man, the sweet, innocent girl declared. At this point, the doctor had to be pretty fed up with the theatrics as he’s holding a positive pregnancy test in his hand, and all the symptoms point to the test being absolutely correct.
That’s when he came up with the perfect response that would shut little Mandy up and have her mom screaming at the girl where her frustrations belong, rather than at the good doctor. So, putting his hands in his lap jacket, the doctor quietly walked over to the window of the exam room and stared outside. Without saying a word, he just stood quietly, watching what was happening outside the window and waited.
After about 5 minutes, Mrs. Jones couldn’t take it anymore. Is there something wrong out there, Doctor? She demanded. And it was just what he’d been waiting for. As a smile crept across his face, he turned toward the woman and her pregnant daughter. Without hesitation, he replied, no, not really, allowing a brief pause before looking little Mandy dead in the eye and adding, It’s just that the last time anything like this happened, a star appeared in the east and three wise men came over the Hill. I’ll be darned if I’m going to miss it this time.
It was at that point, Mandy knew she had to fess up and Mrs. Jones was forced to face the music as well. Her daughter was no Virgin Mary and it was time to focus her frustrations where they belonged. It wasn’t the doctor or the test results that were lying. It was Mandy, and the proof would be arriving in a few short months. Let this serve as a reminder to the rest of us. No matter how much we love our kids, they aren’t perfect. Sadly, all too often when a parent is forced to make this realization, they take out their disappointment on the person who brought it to their attention.
Like the doctor who tells them that their daughter is pregnant, the teacher who says their child was caught cheating, or even the cop who busted their kid with alcohol. It’s time to turn our attention back to our kids, and sometimes that means negative attention when they’ve earned it. Mom stories never ending and each one tells us how the whole process was hard and needs more sacrifices.
This mom lives a great and hard story. Photos and videos of her huge baby belly shared on her Instagram account left people in awe and quickly went viral. Maria earned a serious Instagram following due to the realistic depiction of a sometimes not so glamorous pregnancy. This September, she gave birth to three beautiful triplets named Ivan, Philip, and Agnes and continues to share bits of their lives on social media.
Last year, Maria Nordo Georget’s post on Instagram went viral. She was expecting triplets at the time and people were in awe to see such a huge belly. It started off with me wanting to document our journey for my family and friends, especially since I live in another country, but also because identical triplets are such a rare thing.
I thought people would find it interesting, Maria revealed to the media. So I wanted it to be kind of a mini blog where I wrote about both the ups and the downs. This September, Maria and her husband Anders welcomed two girls and a boy into the world Ivan, Agnes and Phillip. She then posted on her Instagram, Today we welcomed our beautiful babies to the world.
Everything went really well there were no pregnancy complications and were happy and relieved. However, not everything was going so smoothly and one week after giving birth, the young mom shared with her Instagram followers. I now have a really weird looking hanging postpartum belly, which is still quite heavy. My uterus has not shrunk back yet because my belly was so stretched.
It takes longer than usual. I’m going to get a belly band support binder ASAP because it’s quite annoying and the sagging makes my C section scar hurts. I really am impatient to get my body back. The other experienced some health issues after giving birth.
One of the Instagram posts of her, Maria said after the pregnancy, I have a separation of my abdominal muscles. I also have some issues with my posture, breathing, and sore muscles from all the feeding of the babies.