Sister’s looking for mother for 40 years. Then a strange coincidence happens. Life is always full of surprises. You never know who you’re going to meet that will change your life forever. There are bad surprises.
Prizes. Yes, awful surprises sometimes. But what makes the good surprises so good is that they’re unexpected. A very special and long overdue family reunion is taking place this week in the Kansas City area. You don’t and can’t know what’s just around the corner waiting for you.
It might be a beautiful piece of music you haven’t heard before that takes hold of your heart and spirit and lifts them up. It may be a new purpose revealed to you by the words or actions of another. It could be a lifelong friend whom you’re meeting for the very first time. Perhaps it’s a profound lesson clothed in what seems to you like misery or fear. Every sunrise is a promise of a new start and an invitation to engage life.
You’ll face grief and heartrending loss. You’ll come through it and you’ll be stronger and more compassionate for it. You’ll discover depths and breadth of yourself you hadn’t thought possible. You’ll be cruel sometimes. You’ll be beautiful in others.
You might save a life. The life may be your own. I couldn’t tell you these things if I didn’t know they were true. Nothing bad stays forever. Neither does anything good preserve through the former and cherish the latter while it exists.
This is what it’s like to live. Lanie Zarma had been searching for her daughter nearly all their lives, but little did she know they’d been looking for her as well. The women were separated from their mother when they were babies, aged one and two after their parents divorced, ABC News reported.
Two sisters, Starla Medlock and Jeannie Toomey reunited with their mother for the first time in four decades on Tuesday, embracing each other as tears streamed down their faces. It felt like time stood still.
It just stopped, Starla, age 43, told ABC News at the moment she laid eyes on her mom at the Kansas City International Airport. I felt like that piece of my heart was just filling up. It was no longer a void there, her younger sister, Jeannie, age 42, added. The women were separated from their mother, Lanny Zarmac, when they were just one and two years old. Our dad signed up for the Air Force when he was 18 and went to Vietnam, Jeannie explained.
Then he met our mom in Thailand and they got married. They went to Columbus, Ohio, in 1973, where Starla was born. Then dad got stationed in England when she was pregnant with me. I was born there, and that’s where they got divorced. In addition, that’s where she remained as far as we knew.
Then we came back to the States when he got stationed Stateside. Lanny’s long separation from her daughters happened because of the divorce, when the girl’s father got full custody and moved them to the United States. We asked our dad a lot about our mom, and he never spoke ill of our mom to us, Starley recalled of their father, who died six years ago.
He just said that she couldn’t speak English because she’s full blooded Tie, and he said she thought since we were American and he was in the military, he could take better care of us and provide us a better life than she could. But Starla and Jeannie never stopped yearning to find their long lost mother and would ask their father for information to help them in their search.
When I sit back and think of everything, I think he just tried to make it look like he helped, Jeannie said of her dad’s efforts. He was trying to protect us or he was scared he was going to lose his baby. Girls. They always say there are three sides to the story his side, her side and the truth. After years of searching databases and trying to locate birth records to no avail, the sisters decided to stop their searching except that they had too little information to locate their mother.
We had to close that chapter, said Starla. We thought, we can’t keep doing this anymore. We cannot keep doing this to ourselves. We have to accept that we’ll probably never meet her. It was a chapter in our life that was never going to be finished.
On December, However, Starla got an unexpected message on Facebook. I opened up my Facebook and look at message requests, said Starla. There’s a picture I see of this family and I see mine in Jeannie’s baby picture. I’m laying in bed and my husband is laying next to me and I’m going, oh my God. It started out saying, this is not a prank, and I’m thinking, oh my God.
The message was from Lanny’s current husband, Mark Zarmock, who lives with Lanny in Pueblo, Colorado. Starla and Mark swapped numbers, wanting to confirm facts with each other to ensure this was indeed the right connection.
Lanny wanted to find them, but she didn’t know how to, and because she had such limited information, there weren’t any diligent searches, Mark said of his wife. But she’s often cried herself to sleep and talked about her daughters and how she has to find them someday. That night she asked me to help her find them, and we jotted down the information we had.
Their last name was Thompson, which is a very common name. She knew the girl’s father was in the Air Force, and she thinks they came to the US in 1972. It was very vague information she knew. Starla was born in Columbus, Ohio, and Jeanne was born in the hospital in England. It will affect the kids emotionally a lot.
We can experience the psychological changes in them once they grow up, as by nature, we humans are supposed to grow up with father and mother care as per our basic family structure. Father will be strict and mother will have love and care. This is the necessity. When the child grows, they’ll miss all this while they grow. We can see the side effects of these socially.
If there’s a single girl child, they’ll surely miss their father since girls are more attached to their father. One thing that definitely ruins a child’s life is growing up in an unhappy household where both parents are miserable. The child learns that life is misery and often don’t even try to create a happy life for themselves once they’re adults. The best thing we can do for our children is to show them by example that we can be happy and that’s more important than whether or not the parents stay together or break up. Children learn by observing, not from what you tell them.
Show them how to be happy. If you want your child to grow up believing that happiness is possible and is something to work for. Mark said it was difficult to search for the daughters because his wife’s accent is so thick. At first he thought Starla’s name was Stella and Jeannie’s name was Jenny. He continued searching all the names together along with her father, John Thompson, and eventually found John’s obituary.
It only took about 3 hours, he said. When Mark located Jeannie on Facebook, he saw something extraordinary in her photos that sealed the deal for him. I opened up an album and that baby picture popped up. I was in shock, he recalled of finding the same exact baby photo of the girls that his wife had been carrying in her wallet for the past 42 years. I came running out of the bedroom and said, Honey, you’ve got to come see this.
I showed her that picture and she just started bawling the happy family video chatted together for the first time on New Year’s Eve. Mark and Lanny flew to Kansas City on Tuesday to meet their new found daughters in person. I’m totally beside myself. I have my whole new family here, said Jeannie. One thing I’ve always lived by is the quote, With God, all things are possible.
Starla added, I believe that without God, this wouldn’t have been possible in 3 hours. Mark found us when all he had was a picture. Lanie said she is really happy to finally reconnect with her daughters and is planning to Cook enough food for them to make up for all the meals they lost. We’re going shopping for making Thai food, she said. We’re going to go to the Asian store to look for all kinds of food and I’m going to Cook for them.
I’ve waited so long to Cook for them. In addition, for anyone out there in a similar situation, Jeanie has this bit of advice. Life is not fair and it requires compromise. The way to get through it is to decide to you may succeed, you may not.
The point is to strive to reach towards something, to achieve that’s What Provides Motivation To Get Up In the morning it may surprise you to know that People Who Succeed Also Feel A bit lost Because They No Longer Have A Goal To Strive for you just Have To Keep living life Is amazing And Hard And heartbreaking I’ve lost A child And Been stalked
And Dealt With Panic Attacks So bad I Could Barely Get Out Of The house yet I soldiered on and am now Quite happy yes, we’re Financially Very strapped there’s no Guarantee That My Current Plans Will Work out it doesn’t matter If they do or don’t I hope they do, But I Won’t Be devastated if they don’t.